Moms, I think we do ourselves a disservice by always feeling the need to justify our decisions. I have been thinking about this a lot since my post regarding my love of breastfeeding.
If someone asks me if I am choosing to be a stay-at-home-Mom, my response could be as simple as "Yes" or "No". Why elaborate?
Even the most well intentioned, "I love being home with my kids" could make the questioner feel as though I am insinuating that she doesn't have a strong bond with her children. Similarly, if a working Mom responds, "well, I am educated and think that working makes me a good role model for my kids" could come across as implying that only the uneducated would ever stay-at-home, and that they could not be good role models for their children.
This applies to so many of our parenting decisions and might really help ameliorate the "Mommy Wars" tension that seems to make so many of us feel
Breastfeeding? No, eww. Boobs are toys not tools.
Cloth diapers? Yes.
Cloth diapers? Yes, I would never fill a landfill with hundreds of tons of crap.
Do you let your baby cry it out? No.
Do you let your baby cry it out? No, I want my baby to be securely attached to me.
Staying at home? Yes.
Staying at home? Yes, I don't want my baby to reach for the Nanny when she is upset.
Yes or No. Easy as that. No smugness, no chance of misinterpretation...just the truth, free of judgment or implications.
Let's try this, Moms! Maybe we can help each other feel better about ourselves and our parenting decisions with simple Yes/No answers. What do you think?